Something I find quite funny is how bloggers usually apologize their absence on their blog at one time or the other 😛 If you take your time to check out a whole bunch of random “hobby-bloggers” you will find entries with an introduction around the lines of “…sorry I haven’t been blogging that much lately” or “…wow..I had no idea I had been gone for so long”… it is actually quite a funny observation and makes me think of an article I read at the beginning of the year, addressing how most people slip out of their new years resolution before January is even over 😮
It is actually quite scary to think of that unless you make active choices to change certain habits a change is not gonna happen. Writing down a plan on how to go about things, might seem quite obvious, but I’m sure there are a lot of people who just think to themselves that they should do a whole bunch of things without them ever getting done. There wouldn’t be such a market for “self-help” books if that wasn’t the case. A good example are some of the apps I got myself not that long ago. A great thing about apps is that they keep track of your activity; accomplishing streaks can be a motivating factor. The daily reminders have the opposite effect, in fact at a certain point during the first moths of the year; Duolingo ( the popular language app) stopped sending me notifications all together with the message: ” we will stop sending you daily reminders as it isn’t working anyway” which is one of the funniest notifications I’ve received from any app. Funny enough I remember it as it was humorous and different to the repetitive messages I had previously received. Maybe it can be compared to parents who tell you the same things over and over without it ever really taking hold in your brain, until there is some sort of threat attached to the message. I don’t necessarily think paternal nuisance or anger is what makes a child pay attention, it might just be that the message has been altered. Now the message is slightly different so we actually pay attention and remember it….or for sometime at least until it is forgotten again.
You literally have to make a conscious, determined choice to make a serious mindful effort to alter whatever it is that you want to change in your life, the push is not going to come from a nagging app, the push can only come from within. The good news is that it only takes 13 days to turn something into a new habit! Something else that I read in an article not long ago also revealed how thinking about options/choices is way more helpful when it comes to changing negative habits. If there is something that you gravitate towards that isn’t particularly good for you, think to yourself that “I’ll do so and so instead of this”, presenting options to yourself will give you the freedom to say no more easily, than if you rely on will power alone, according to said article.
Last month I re-read the outlines in the three books about mental training that I wrote about here on my blog previously. I spent a great deal of time revising if I was making the right decisions and if I had taken care of certain issues I had noted down in my planner earlier in the year. I was adjusting and reminding myself of certain goals, something that human beings have a tendency of doing too rarely. Something I noticed in my previous diaries was how I would very often write about “getting back into form again” something that struck me as 1) surprisingly repetitive and 2) sad – as you should feel and tell yourself that you are in good form (you are only improving.)
Thinking that you are constantly standing staring up at a goal instead of staring straight ahead thinking to yourself ” ah, of course I’m in good form, I’m always that” seemed a bit counter productive to me. I have not been particularly good at keeping diaries either, as the pages at one point or the other became empty or full of random ideas scribbled in all sorts of illogical places.
Last month I also decided to create some sort of “table-layout” when it came to my practise routine and figured that I was at my happiest if my time had been equally divided between the various things I do musically, than if all my concentration was focused on my guitar only.
Good time management or simply good awareness gives you the power to take back your day rather than the day owning you ;):)
So next time you feel like writing or saying ” sorry I haven’t been active on my blog lately” or ” woooops how long hasn’t it been since I checked into app so and so” bear in mind that only total awareness of your time will make you own that time.