12 Lessons Learnt From Being A Big Sister.

“Helping out” used to be the norm back in the day when our ancestors were more tribal and more connected to their immediate and (probably also) extended family.

The modern concept of “responsibility” means: gathering resources (making money) so that you can pay the bills that you have your own name on.

It usually means moving away from your family, preferably as far away as soon as possible, but not because you are starting your own tribe. It’s just vital for you to get away!

Back in older times responsibility meant: gather resources (hunting, foraging and/or farming), while there were other layers of responsibility that were acknowledged such as doing housework and looking after children among other things.

My situation as a teenager was dramatically different to that of my Norwegian peers since I actually had to help out with my younger siblings.

I did my part but felt miserable about missing out on what my friends were doing, in addition I also found gender-bias to be frustrating: namely that it was merely assumed that I as the oldest girl had to help out. When older women pointed out that this would be great experience for me when I one day started my own family, I was further angered at how it was just assumed that I would go along with gender-typical alignments.

When we moved to London and our Asian landlords assumed that I would be helping my mother in the kitchen I once again felt an inner dissonance, why did people just assume this?

Fast forward and I’ve realised a number of things:

  1. I didn’t really miss out on much during my teens.
  2. Whatever lessons I learnt from helping out; other people my own age simply had to learn later.
  3. A number of my old friends had to acknowledge that their parents had been right and that their own “rebellious” time as teenagers had neither empowered them nor benefited them long-term.
  4. While other people were hanging out and partying I acquired  proper skills.
  5. What I learnt from dealing with my family taught me things that I’m sure can be applicable to other situations, it even inspired me to write a children’s book.
  6. Helping out in the family is the norm in Africa, South America, The Middle East and (probably also)Asia and this is a benefit when it comes to having strong family units.
  7. It is much better to be part of a tribe (family) rather than family duties being outsourced to the impersonal State/government. It also saves taxpayer’s money to keep as much as possible within the family.
  8. I would much rather help out with stereo-typical female things rather than going to war or lifting insanely heavy objects.
  9. Stereotypical gender roles became stereotypical gender roles for a reason; and most people don’t even question it or think about it.
  10. The more people can do on their own and the less dependent they are on the supermarket-culture the more they enhance their chances of survival.
  11. I’m probably one of the most well-prepared Millennials in the Western world when it comes to managing and running a household properly due to my experience of co-running things with my mother. Not because I’m so awesome, but due to how uncommon it has become with traditional family structures and inter-family responsibilities. This is not a bad experience to have, especially when considering that the world is filled to the brim with other cultures where family is still seen as an important corner-stone.
  12. Nobody is too important to take out the trash. The Western world is failing due to an attitude problem and a value deficiency I’m sure!

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The International Women’s Day.

Today it is the 8th of March and the whole world, including businesses, seem united in this socialist/communist celebration.

In my 1st blog entry about the 8th of March in 2015 I did the politically correct thing and featured 20 Badass Women from stereo-typically male dominated fields.

Once again I would like to remind my readership (and the world) that Russia was ahead in all things egalitarian. So there is nothing new with policies currently promoted in Western countries, in fact I highly recommend reading: The War Has No Female Face., a book about female Russian war heroes.

This year I will say thank you to mothers and women who are good at keeping our societies going; those who have gone down in history nameless in terms of the history books but whose memories were/are kept alive by their descendants.

Music wise I think that I’m a good role-model professionally for women who want to choose an untraditional career path, more than anything I think that I’m a good role-model for musicians regardless of gender, since a number of the pieces that I’ve recorded and performed had never been recorded by men nor women. The same can be said of my creative versatility, this is not a common thing to come across, whether you are a man or a woman or somewhere in between.

I hardly have any female fans and that has always been the case! I’ve received countless messages through the years from men telling me that I’ve inspired them to practise their instruments! So my influence is not over women.

The assumption that women will have female fans or that women will make other women purchase instruments is very wrong, or at least it is in my case.

So today I will use my blog to thank grandmothers, mothers, etc; who always worked in the fields, on the farms, in the house, in the home, those who were never thanked and are never thanked even today!

A great deal of “awesome female role-models” have no children in our societies which becomes a national crisis if it is too widespread! A great deal of propaganda material is currently being promoted seeking to discourage Western people from having families.

Infertility though is a major catalyst for depression in women who feel less womanly if they can’t give birth to a child. It is regarded as one of the worst news that a woman can get which is why adoption is seen as a Godsend and a blessing to those who can’t have children.

I woke up this morning to a news story about a woman’s group here in the UK promoting having no babies in order to save the planet, the article also mentioned a group of French people who have voluntarily sterilised themselves in order to be eco-friendly.

As I’ve already mentioned on my blog before: there has been numerous mass extinctions on this planet! Climate change is an ongoing factor, with or without man-made pollution. Trash and deforestation can in many ways be seen as the result of one species gaining too much ground, which the planet has a tendency of cleaning up on its own, regardless of what we want as humans.

An eco-apocalypse will probably happen at one point or the other, but there will probably also be some people who survive! My bet is that Scandinavian rangers, African bush-men and mountain people in Afghanistan will be among those who will inherit the earth. Our modern culture of consumption and tech-convenience is a lure that will result in the death of millions of people incapable of surviving without the crutches of a developed Nation-State.

Self-sterilising eco-friendly Westerners are completely missing the point and are yet another example of how our part of the world is mentally and culturally decaying.

Happy International Women’s Day.

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Finally some sponsored YouTube content! Find out how you can do the same!

So this morning I woke up to the beautiful sight of my account looking like this:

sponsorship notification

This is how it looks like when you have made an approved sponsored video! It will show up in your content section and automatically become part of your “commercial-cv.”

If you want to know more about the site and my experience so far then make sure that you join my LIVE stream on Patreon for only 1$ on the 28th this month! I do minimum two update videos every month and have turned these into live streams in 2019 which means that not only will you get all sorts of tips and advice relevant to being an indie-musician you can also ask me questions and interact with me!

Obviously I’m very excited about my first sponsored content and I hope that I will get hired to make many more videos in the future! I’ve only contacted brands that are related to interests that I’ve expressed on my social media, which is an important detail when it comes to sponsored content! You have to aim for products that genuinely interests you or that you think that your fans/followers will have an interest in!

Whenever you create a video that features sponsored content you are obliged by law to notify the viewer, which means that none of the videos that I’ve made in the past for brands were sponsored! The standard for a video with 100.000 views on YouTube is 10.000$ for a featured product. That’s quite something to find out, especially when you are creating content that is in perpetuity, which obviously is the case whenever an artist makes a music video!

I wish that there was an organisation for independent musicians that could notify creatives of these things! As it is you just have to find out things on your own which means that you’ll miss out on financial opportunities!

The secretive nature of musicians also makes it difficult to “unionise” if you get what I’m trying to say. When I was offered to do my very 1st clinic some years back I tried to shop around and ask musicians who only do clinics what an average rate might be. Nobody wanted to help me with this so I was never able to figure out what a standard industry rate might look like. Likewise; when I was ill and injured I couldn’t find any averages for injuries or an estimated retirement age which meant that I had to resort to online forums which is not representative due to limited sample sizes! 

The music industry is so murky that it leaves a lot of people fumbling in the darkness when it comes to: technique, health & money! 

I think most aspiring musicians will have come across people who play amazing licks and runs only to receive a note with a scale written on it if asking about said lick!

I took lessons with a very difficult (but well-respected) guitar teacher some years back who waited until my hand was hurting so much that I had to take a break before he shared health-related knowledge with me. He literally waited until I could have gotten injured. That is not acceptable tutoring. Nor is it acceptable to shower students in sarcasm which I guess is common with miserable musicians. Envy is apparently rampant in this business which is not a good thing.

The secrecy that guitar players shroud themselves in is ridiculous as well since it only makes it harder for musicians as a demographic. The general atomised culture makes it easier to take advantage of performers or creative artists in show biz!

If you are looking for a mentor or a teacher who doesn’t hold anything back then you should get in touch with me! Not only do I customise my music lessons to fit whatever individual needs, I also share my knowledge. Obviously I don’t do this for free! In order to have a one-hour customised private lesson with me over SKYPE or in person you’ll have to pay 30GBP, I will also expect that I’m mentioned or thanked if I aid you when it comes to your recordings, etc; It is a bit silly to seek out expertise only to pretend that you came up with everything on your own afterwards!

I always give credit to Ramon Ortiz even though I didn’t take that many lessons with him, because he had a great influence on my heavy metal guitar playing. I also mention Steve Smyth even though I only had one masterclass with him. He is a great teacher and if anything, he  boosted my confidence as a player before I recorded my Evolution EP!

And of course I always thank my mother Elisabeth who taught me how to sing opera by using the bel canto technique, not to forget that she is also my manager!

Letting people know that you appreciate their help and support by giving them credit or by officially thanking them should become more commonplace in showbiz!

There is always a generation of musicians coming after you and it is the duty of those who are more experienced to pass their knowledge on, especially if you know how to sing or play classical music.

This is part of our irreplaceable European heritage and it can never be allowed to get lost!

The Most Important 10 Years Of Your Life – Part 1.

In January 2016 I started my blog year on a positive note linking to articles that I figured could help my readers.

One of the articles I linked to was this one: What are the most important years of your life?
The reason as to why I decided to revisit it now is that someone somewhere clicked on said article.
When reading it again I started thinking about my own life as an artist/musician and how that fits in with what the author/expert was saying.
I will break this blog post up into four individual ones since I’m trying to write smaller entries this year!
Support. 
According to the article it is crucial for kids to have support from their parents.
I agree.
As someone who started playing guitar late it wouldn’t have been possible for me to develop technically to the degree that I have without support.
I wouldn’t have gotten exposure and other good things either since they were/are the direct result of my mother’s work.
“Manager“ is in fact not a sufficient title to describe my mother’s involvement.
Self-promotion online, reaching out to professional industry people, not to forget self-educating about the ever-changing aspects of the music industry is a lot of work.
Building a brand, writing original music, acquiring technical skills; none of these things are easy, especially since different tasks require different mental wiring.
Few are genetically equipped to do it all, there is also a limit to the amount of hours available to a person in a 24hr day, not to forget individual needs in regards to sleep, etc;
There are so many aspects involved with being an artist that it can be dizzying. The clock tics, and you have to find out if you are placing your bets on the best project.
It doesn’t matter if you have lots of ideas for books if your brand is music and you are independent. There will not be enough hours to independently pursue both, because it will require reaching out to independent book-bloggers and people engaged in that field of work, rather than reaching out to music-industry people and brand a new release to an already existing fan base.
The network required to launch a fashion brand, several book series, art exhibitions, and music releases in several genres, would be nothing short of mad to build from scratch.
You would need many people involved with creating many different infrastructures.
Because of this, there are some pursuits that have to take the backseat, while the main focus is dedicated to one field, but even when narrowing things down, you’ll probably need help.
In the early years of my playing career I’ll admit that I was envious of those musicians who had supportive parents.
My dad told me that I would die of an overdose at the age of 27 and my mother was not exactly enthusiastic about heavy-metal or the idea of a woman playing the guitar.
Their reactions broke my heart back then and I seriously wondered if I would ever become a musician since parental support seemed a staple at the time when reading interviews with new up-and-coming rock-n-roll musicians.
The whole idea of rockers rebelling against their parents was a thing of the past.
Many Millennial rock-n-rollers got into the genre due to their parents being into it!
I felt like I was already beaten, but I still kept on going, and ended up being represented (and coached in opera) by my mother with my music turning into a family affair.
I wouldn’t be the musician that I am today if it hadn’t.

 

How Sexism Is Defined In The Western World.

In 2019 I plan on dedicating more blog-time to book reviews and distance myself even more from the negative “news-picture.“

I feel like I’ve said more than enough on this blog about current issues and problems and ultimately it isn’t really up to me to sort them all out.

After venturing down the rabbit hole of reading about politics and current challenges I registered myself to vote for the first time in 2017. I wanted to get involved with politics on the lowest level of government in my local area but found out that I was not eligible. Whatever involvement or help from me will therefore have to be philanthropic.

In 2018 I finished reading the entire Holy Bible which was something that I had declared that I would do on my Instagram page, it took me over a year! I’ve never spent more time going over a text! In addition I also read other texts such as “The Prose Edda“ by Snorri Sturluson. My spiritual journey culminated with my Confirmation. I also did two successful fundraisers for my local area which certainly was a first!

I’m not too sure yet how this blog will develop in the coming year, I will however add one last “red-flag“ entry in my PSA category.

This is taken from an article that I saw a good while back and it is of interest to note how Sexism is defined in the U.S.A. today:

“Sexism in a woman’s state of birth and in her current state of residence both lower her wages and likelihood of labour force participation and lead her to marry and bear her first child sooner,” they wrote. Read the full article here.

I’ll include this warning from a doctor at the NHS in England; I’ve read plenty of other articles about the same topic this year. It is alarming.

London NHS consultant warns of risks of delaying pregnancy.

Congratulations to Nicole!

I’m starting to understand why people find it interesting with show-biz families! It is awesome to have artistic siblings & to grow up with parents who are as well!

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