We all make mistakes and we all have our shortcomings. In this age of “photoshopped perfection” I thought it would be cool to share some of mine. Now for those of you who didn’t know, I started this blog to have some fun really and don’t take myself particularly serious outside of music. It is in many ways a bit of a joke, but I do throw in some serious entries now and then, self irony is important and ever since I published my first entry I’ve hoped that people would “get it”. Anyway, here we go: (this has been written as if thought I give myself advice, seemed strange to write I all the time) 1) Understanding that people are not as interested as you are in your project. Bursting into the room euphoric because you have figured something out, or interrupting people to share your concept or idea is tempting when you are excited, but instead of coming across as dedicated, passionate and enthusiastic about your craft, you might just come across as a self-centered bastard. Conclusion? You either have to contain your excitement or go for a walk. 2) Pay attention. Paying attention to what others are saying is a sign of respect, the fact that you are too consumed with your latest idea doesn’t help the fact that people will perceive you as someone who doesn’t notice them or who treat people like they are air. Truly listening can also be crucial when important information is shared, constantly telling people, that…”yes yes…what did you say again?” or that you will “call them back again later.” will make people feel like you don’t value them,even if you do. Conclusion? Try to focus and be less absent-minded and more present. Very, very, hard. 3) The oldest pig. Now I find the story of the 3 little pigs very interesting. I had to take responsibility early on when everybody else could run around and be irresponsible and I was always very serious when it came to everything I was doing. A bit too serious. The way I see it, yes it is good to be the practical pig, but if you only obsess with your work, you are more likely to make a serious mistake due to the fact that you are over focusing and have little to no variety. You might let the wolf in, because you in all your absent-mindedness, simply left the door open. Conclusion? Trying to be less obsessive with what you are doing is tricky, in fact very tricky, but it’s worth a try. 4) Try to be organised. Yes it’s easy to get carried away, but being messy and throwing a gazillion ideas out there will make it hard to find and re-locate previous ideas and notes. I forget about previous ideas all the time. Having an organised chaos only makes sense to you, so if your notes look unreadable and everything is a mess…try to clean up your craziness now and then. Conclusion? It takes a lot of time, but it’s certainly worth doing, nothing more frustrating than spending hours looking for something you know where is…sort of…kind of…you know…you know where it is but not quite where… 😛 5) Remember to eat and drink. It is a good idea, you know… Conclusion? Crucial. 6)Think before you talk. Some people have the tendency to just blurt things out, I also think that creative people have a tendency to blurt inconsistent, scattered thoughts out, which can make people really scratch their head as they think you said something you certainly didn’t say. Something that is meant as a joke, comes across as a fact, something that you probably shouldn’t have said, becomes the real, hidden truth! Think before you talk is the mantra of our politically sensitive, politically correct society, where sudden blurts can be character suicide. Conclusion? Politicians, Rockstars, Artists, Critics, Journalists, those who used to be colourful and controversial characters have very little space to manoeuvre and little freedom unless they want to be assaulted by angry haters online or lose their job. At the end of the day you don’t want unnecessary hate or burned bridges due to misunderstandings. 7)First Impressions. First impressions are important, I remember a producer was telling me extensively about this in LA. I had to be careful with what kind of recording I put out there, because first impressions are hard to shake off. Conclusion? Unless you want people to run for their lives. Try to look representable. Image wise, be yourself but a refined version. 8) Expecting too much of others. When you expect certain reactions and behaviour from others, you are destined to be disappointed. Conclusion? Always expect the worst. Then you’ll be happy when your suspicion is proven false. 9) When you are upset… Most people have a short-term memory when it comes to their own wrongdoings. If someone was mean to you, hurt you or betrayed you, there is a 99% chance they won’t even remember. That’s why bullies from school remember the “good ol’days” when you were best “friends” and had sooo much fun together… and people who threw shit at you when you started out as an artist remember that they ALWAYS supported you… This is also why holding grudges or isolating yourself is a bad idea, why? Because you only hurt yourself. Remember, the douchebag probably doesn’t even know he/she has been or is a douchebag. Even if someone was to ruin your life it’s highly unlikely, that they actually would be aware of how their decisions affected you. Conclusion? There is a difference between, family, fiends and acquaintances. And even among family and friends, the majority will not support you in times of need. Which means that unless you want to be the loneliest person in the world…call, chat and hang out with people, just keep in the back of your mind that if you need their help, they are most likely to let you down. 10) Motivating others. If you only care about getting results motivating others is something you will fail at. Why? Because the key to motivation is to point out what you like about the people you work with, instead of pointing out everything that has not been done. Conclusion? Hmm..I try my best!! 11) Free Time. I’m not quite sure what this means 😛 but I guess getting drunk at the pub or watching TV is what people refer to when they talk about free time. If free time bores you and doesn’t do anything for you…you should at least try to understand other people’s need for this abstract thing. Like… calling people in the middle of the night during weekends to share what you think is a brilliant idea, might be seen as highly annoying. Sending work emails and Skype messages in the middle of the night, might be seen as strange as well. Conclusion? Everyone thinks you are weird if you don’t follow the norm. It is custom to indulge in gossip as this apparently is very interesting, just like watching reality TV. Most people live for their free time. Few live for their work/art. 12)Leaving teacups. Everyone hates me for leaving tea cups that are half empty around the house. Conclusion? Take the time to actually finish drinking the cup of tea or wait before making it in the first place. 13) Saying the obvious hurts others. People prefer a lie. I don’t. Whats that proverb again? Better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie? Conclusion? If someone asks if the dress is ugly, say no. If someone ask if they are fat, say no. In fact always say no, no matter what. 14) Attention to the big picture. Don’t call something done just because you are impatient. Conclusion? Improving. Attention to the picture as a whole is very important. Very important. Crucial. 15) Remind people of how grateful you are for what they’ve done for you. It matters little that you feel grateful, you gotta let people know, over and over and over again. Conclusion? I always say thank you but I can certainly improve when it comes to making others feel valued. 16) In the big scheme of things, nobody cares if you remembered to take out the garbage or clean the sink. The people who live with you will mind though and even though it is soooo irrelevant, it will drive them mad. Conclusion? The mundane has to be done, even if it is absolutely irrelevant in your mind. 17) Everybody hates and everyone is hated. I don’t hate anyone really, if I don’t like someone I just don’t have anything to do with them. I get annoyed sometimes but that doesn’t stop people from hating me. Conclusion? Don’t let it get to you when people hate you, tricky, very tricky…but..hmmm… worth a go. 18) Being obsessive when it comes to patterns can be a good thing if used correctly , applying this to people who strike you as odd is a bad idea. Conclusion? Trying to figure people out can drive you crazy, it’s not worth the effort. 19) When people are in the bathroom they do not want to be disturbed by you sharing your latest idea by shouting thorough the door or the window. Conclusion? Yes, I’ve learned not to do that now. 20) Assuming that you know what the other person is about to say, will drive them crazy and you might not get to hear the next part of their sentence when they decide they don’t want to tell you anymore. Not knowing what they really were about to say, will drive you crazy. Conclusion? Slow down. 21) My culinary skills are legendary… Knowing how much pasta to cook for one person and how long it takes before a toast is burnt- yeah, I should know that by now… 😛
My first month blogging has now come to an end!
People from 58 different countries have visited this page and out of those my top 3 countries are:
1)USA 2)UK 3)NORWAY, which doesn’t come as a surpriser to me as these have always been my top 3 countries both with sales, social media traction, etc.
My top 3 referrers are:
1)Facebook 2)Twitter and 3) Search Engines
The top 3 links people clicked:
1) WordPress Media-(my pictures) 2) Guitar World link 3)Link to my store.
I’m glad I decided to do this and will do my best to keep it up! These are my top stories from this month:
1) “Getting Back Into The Zone!” I shared this entry on FB and saw to my great surprise that it went on to become my top entry this month! Me getting back into “virtuoso-shape” clicked with fans and the entry was shared & viewed by many. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/21/getting-back-into-the-zone/
2) “I’ve joined a torture club.” Totally “taking-the-piss” as they say in the UK. This became my most viewed entry this month! I think thats really funny actually! https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/27/ive-joined-a-torture-club/
3) “Happy Mother’s Day to my mother.” This personal entry surprised me with becoming my most shared entry! I don’t know if people did that because they loved it or hated it, it was at least honest from my part and the rest of the family loved it too. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/14/happy-mothers-day-to-my-mother/
4) “20 Badass Women!” To mark The International Womens Day I compiled this list! 8th of May is a day to celebrate, regardless of your political affiliation! https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/08/20-badass-women/
5) “The Hills are Alive with the sound of music.” My very first blog entry that I posted on FB along with the news that I was blogging! I was very surprised by the amount of interest and instantly had people signing up for my email list on here. In the entry I was totally stoked over my album being in top-10 chart and went out for a daring walk…in the wilderness of the British Countryside…The amount of views this article got was only surpassed by my “Torture-Club” entry. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/02/the-hills-are-alive-with-the-sound-of-music/
My least popular entries suffered greatly from not really being shared anywhere, these are posts I made usually very late in the night and didn’t promote on FB.
1) “Illustrations For Children’s books“. Getting attention for original art is usually a slow burning process, this entry was my least successful this month. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/22/illustrations-for-childrens-books/
2) “St.Patricks Day a Christian Holiday?” – Writing about the origins of this used-to-be-religious- holiday gained NO traction. Guess if I had posted a top 10 most outrageous outfits it probably would have trended like crazy. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/17/st-patricks-day-a-christian-holiday/
3) “#1!My album is #1!” Written by an overly tired, overly excited, sleep deprived me and published around 3AM or something, my exctatic post about my number one album received little buzz on my blog. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/24/1-my-album-is-1/
4) “I’ve become addicted to blogging!” nobody cared much about that. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/17/ive-become-addicted-to-blogging/
5) “Dragon Age Inquisition!” It was well liked on youtube and got an overwhelming response on FB, but here on my blog besides a couple of gamers who stumbled upon this from search engines, it earned little buzz. https://thecommanderinchief.wordpress.com/2015/03/19/dragon-age-inquisition-m/
Conclusion: It is unpredictable what will trend and what won’t, but sharing entries on FB certainly helps, especially if you have a featured image that catches peoples attention. Also, the one beauty related entry I did about nail polish got many likes from other wordpress bloggers, girls blogging about beauty tips. Which proves that certain topics can trend even without Social Media help, it’s just hard to know what will and what won’t.
Petitions I’ve signed! It has never before been easier to voice your opinion and hopefully contribute to some positive change! I’ve always hated injustice. When I was in high school I was a member of the Amnesty International Club, but at the time I felt like it was too passive to just sit and sign letters. I really wanted to bring CHANGE with big huge letters, but it can be hard to know what to do. Outside of signing petitions, writing letters and putting pressure on elected officials, the only other options are angry protest or running for office. So signing petitions it is, at least for the moment . . .
Overturn Asia Bibi’s death sentence #saveAsiaBibi https://www.change.org/p/david-cameron-foreign-secretary-philip-hammond-and-the-government-of-pakistan-overturn-asia-bibi-s-death-sentence-saveasiabibi
Pardon all of the estimated 49,000 men who, like Alan Turing, were convicted of consenting same-sex relations under the British “gross indecency” law (only repealed in 2003), and also all the other men convicted under other UK anti-gay laws. https://www.change.org/p/british-government-pardon-all-of-the-estimated-49-000-men-who-like-alan-turing-were-convicted-of-consenting-same-sex-relations-under-the-british-gross-indecency-law-only-repealed-in-2003-and-also-all-the-other-men-convicted-under-other-uk-anti-gay-2
We Want Facebook To Remove Having To Pay To Reach Fans And Followers https://www.change.org/p/facebook-we-want-facebook-to-remove-having-to-pay-to-reach-fans-and-followers
Pass the new ordinance to allow street vendors to earn an honest living!https://www.change.org/p/chicago-city-council-pass-the-new-ordinance-to-allow-street-vendors-to-earn-an-honest-living
BBC: BRING BACK CLARKSON https://www.change.org/p/bbc-reinstate-jeremy-clarkson
The only campaign that reached its goal, was the one about Clarkson, that says a lot about our celebrity driven culture!
I’ve had an extremely eventful day today! With the exception of an exhilarating, mind bending gallop to the mighty gas station…
I’ve been inside all day working on my new online store. The truth though is that I’m quite proud of this 😀 I got t-shirts, plates, iPad covers & even a watch design 😉 hi-hi…
Anyway…. It’s amazing how certain things that seem so simple can drag out for ever… and ever….aaaaand eeeeveeeer… aaaaaaaaaand..eeeeeeveeeeeeeer…
That’s right folks! Spring is just around the corner \m/
While an appetiser of spring was lurking outside, flirting with whomever was lucky enough to be out in the sun, I was involved with an adventurous archeological excavation in my music room.
Considering how extensive my gear collection is, it was quite an undertaking.
Selling both of those along with the cabinet on the top of my post today. eBay here I come.
The fun never ends 😛
For sometime people have been telling me that I should have my own Blog and every time someone has suggested this I’ve been asking myself: Blog about what? Guitars? My endless daily practice routines? Outside of music I think my life is utterly un-bloggable, so the idea seemed ridiculous. This year though after realising that pretty much everyone has a blog, I figured I should start one as well, and write about things that are “un-bloggable” and/or whatever comes to my mind; Like my old sweater for example 😛 or bad hair days or maybe no-make-up-selfies 😛
Everyday pretty much I go for a run or quick walk (it is usually 6 miles), and considering how uneventful that is, I figured that would be a good starting point for this under-whelming concept.This is why I decided to call it “The Daily Walk” as I thought that this might sound mundane enough. People often assume that the lives of artists are 10x more eventful than their own, but the truth is that if you are ever to master an instrument, repetition and routine are key elements. If I was to publish my practise diary ( yes I actually have one ) or if I was to film a normal day in my life, it would either involve me travelling to do a performance, or me just sitting still with my instrument, playing the same thing over and over again. The truth is dear reader, I believe you would be bored to death 😉 Let me then introduce you to my very un-bloggable blog, let’s see how it goes!